A quick note about grief

For those of you who are unaware, the grief process is not linear. I used to hear folks say, "it get's easier over time." Ummm... NO! At least not in my case. My grief has evolved, changed, transitioned, if you will. And I am certain that its evolution is not complete as it has only been 4 years from our profound loss. And despite the fact that my daughter and I both lost the same person, at the same time... we grieve in dramatically different ways!

In fact, it was my daughter, Ashley who sent me a twitter thread that had a wonderful analogy about grief. Likened it to a ball in a box with a pain button inside. At first the ball takes up so much room that it is constantly pressing on that pain button. Searing, gut-wrenching pain. Over time, as we deal with our emotions, the ball changes shape... perhaps gets smaller. As it changes, the ball bounces all over that box, randomly. And every once in a while, it'll hit that pain button. As we heal, the ball gets smaller, so perhaps the button is not pressed as much, or the pain doesn't last as long. But it is still that same searing pain.

A few words came to mind for me today: